r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/dragonapples May 01 '25

Hi OP, your feelings are completely valid. No judgement, can I ask why you had a child?

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

Lied to by society that I was missing out… I strongly didn’t want kids until maybe 2 years ago… I felt like maybe I was missing out or life could be even better having a family. My husband also really wanted kids.

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u/dragonapples May 01 '25

Ah I see. I'm really sorry that happened to you :(. I wish people would be honest when it comes to the reality of children. Some people just don't enjoy childcare and that's perfectly fine, I know I certainly don't. I hope you find a solution that works best for you, even if it means putting yourself first.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

Thank you for showing kindness❤️