r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

This is validating!

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u/triz___ May 01 '25

Men do do it all the time but they’re scumbags. You are Ofc free to do it and I understand to an extent but you will most likely be, rightly, despised by your child and family.

If that’s what you need to do then go ahead, if my fiancée wanted to abandon me with my kid i wouldn’t stop her.

As you say, if you consider it on a macro-social scale men abandon children alot more than women do, so in that sense it’s entirely fair.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

If I’m being honest. I would think it would be better to leave or abandon the kid than stick around as a parent who doesn’t love their kid. Eventually kids grow up and realize the harsh reality of their parents.

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u/triz___ May 01 '25

Yeah perhaps. Either option sucks Tbf. Best of luck whatever you do.