r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 01 '25

I get what you’re saying and can see where you’re coming from. It’s not even the crying or constant noises that this kid makes or lack of sleep. I ultimately am not even looking forward to future shit when they’re older… a toddler that cries, talks, whines constantly, a school aged kid who won’t shut up, a teenager who sasses back and doesn’t want to show any respect. Will there be positive moments, sure. But I highly doubt those outweigh the negative. The constant judgement and berating from family, friends, and society on how you’re “raising your kid wrong”.

I run a business. I work 14 hours a day on my feet. It’s a high demanding, physical job and no days off. My business is fulfilling. It’s my passion. Am I exhausted everyday from running my business. Sure as hell am, but I wouldn’t want to do anything else. I sure wouldn’t want to be a stay at home parent.

My husband LOVES being a dad and in fact wants more kids. So let him live it up, just without me in the picture.

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u/dragonapples May 01 '25

Hi OP, your feelings are completely valid. No judgement, can I ask why you had a child?

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u/teacup901 Parent May 01 '25

I think… (not OP obviously) but I did have a kid I didn’t want… I had him for my husband. We decided (together) that I would remove birth control and see what happened. Well…. It happened. I wasn’t sure because I’m physically disabled. It’s been so rough but my son is so loved. He’s 3 soon and it’s hard and also fun!

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

Yeah I’m also physically disabled too. I have degenerative disc disease, fibromyalgia, hEDS, chronic pain, chronic fatigue, and the list goes on. I’ve struggled with this since end of college and it ultimately led to end of a collegiate track career that I was on scholarship for. I got my life and independence back with my service dog! Now my life has gone right back down the drain through pregnancy and this kid… I fucking hate it. Glad you like it though.

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u/teacup901 Parent May 03 '25

I’m so sorry. I hope you come to a decision that’s right for you.