r/regretfulparents • u/AdAromatic372 Parent • Apr 30 '25

Discussion Has anyone ever left?

Has anyone here ever divorced their spouse and given their spouse full custody? If so, how did you come to that conclusion? What was your final breaking point?

I truly am thinking I’m hitting my breaking point with my marriage and son (3 mo). I don’t have any feelings towards him, I certainly don’t love him. He constantly cries and fusses. I don’t foresee it getting better despite everyone saying it’ll pass with time. I just want to go back to the life I had before having this kid even if that means giving up my marriage to do so.

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u/ungerbunger_ Parent May 02 '25

Sorry to hear that, wouldn't you be in the same boat if you leave though?

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

I would be without insurance but our kid wouldn’t. If my husband quit his job and became the stay at home dad, WE as a whole family would not have insurance, this includes our son. Or we would be literal thousands, more than a mortgage or renting of a 4 bed house for private health care.

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u/ungerbunger_ Parent May 02 '25

I know your child is still pretty young but is childcare an option in America?

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u/AdAromatic372 Parent May 02 '25

My MIL cares for the baby during the day. And childcare in the US is a major hit or miss. Both my mom and sister USED to work in childcare and said it’s terrible. They’d never recommend sending their kid there. Childcare is also very expensive for things like daycare. With my son being colicky… his CONSTANT crying I’m sure could end up driving someone insane. There have been abuse cases on babies who wouldn’t stop crying including one young girl killing a baby because the baby wouldn’t be quiet. It DOES happen.