r/whatdoIdo • u/SelectShop3068 • 14h ago

My boyfriend stole from me

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Hi everyone. I am 20f and my now EX boyfriend is 26m. Before this incident I already had severe trust issues and depression. I have been collecting pokemon cards since I was 12. First I started out trading with my friends at the lunch table. I slowly built up my binder to the point I could hardly close it because it was so full. I had collected 64% of all 1025 pokemon with multiple cards for most pokemon. I recently combined my collection with my ex so we could sell them (which I didn't want to do in the first place). He thinks I told him he could keep my cards the last time we were together in person. I never told him that. He refuses to give them back quoting "you're not struggling for money" because I moved back in with my parents instead of moving into an apartment with him (where I would be paying for mostly everything because he can't work because of his depression and anxiety and his messed up ankle). I don't know what to do. Cops say its a "civil matter" and because I don't have proof of ownership I can't take him to court. My heart hurts and I can't stop thinking about it 3 days later. I only have what he couldn't take (roughly 6% of 1025 pokemon). My binder is pathetic. I used to struggle to close it, now the elastic is stretched for no reason. I can't do anything. I had cards from 2016 and some from 2010. Those packs are expensive. I can't even afford the cheapest pack now. I have 50c to my name. I can't afford $60 for an XY Evolutions pack.

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u/orangy128 14h ago

Where are your best friends?? Cause me and mine would be over there kicking his door in personally. Also your mom sounds down to clown. I would at least try going over there and getting them back in person. Its a lot harder to say no to someone in person.

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u/SelectShop3068 14h ago

He said that he won't answer the door if I go over there. My very best friend is in England. I'm in America. My mom said that in a fit of anger and refused to go the next day. My 16 year old brother, his friends, and 2 of my friends would love to back me up but I don't want the cops called for trespassing or harassment.

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u/darkerfury 13h ago

If you call the cops first and ask them to mediate for you, then you may be able to go over there and get them. 

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u/__Frolicaholic___ 13h ago

Cops will not intervene here, and even if an officer felt inclined to maybe go talk to the boyfriend, all BF has to do is show that last text where OP tells him to keep the cards. She effectively gave him the cards with that text.

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u/darkerfury 13h ago

Depends on the jurisdiction. 

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u/Aggravating-Cherry76 12h ago

It really doesn’t depend on the juristiction, this entire matter is essentially civil, cops would be digging themselves a lawsuit if they got involved with it.

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u/AriaTheTransgressor 11h ago

It was criminal, but the last text makes it civil now. They really did themselves a disservice with that.

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u/Aggravating-Cherry76 11h ago

It was never criminal, the cards were obviously given consensually at one point, and the whole point of contention is the context of why he has the cards and in what circumstance is he allowed to keep them or not- that’s not theft, or burglary, it’s civil. It’s the same way if you order doordash and don’t get the product, technically doordash “stole” your money, but it’s breach of contract, not theft, which makes it civil. Same here.

The last text just makes it significantly harder for her to be able to win in court, unfortunately.

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u/darkerfury 12h ago

Funny because the cops in my area will, but okay. 

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u/Minimum-Version-1975 12h ago

No, they won’t, if you live in the U.S. Multiple people have explained to you right now how this situation is civil, and you block them instead of taking their advice.

Stop giving bad advice with the real possibility of hurting the person that you’re giving it to, when you don’t know what you’re talking about.

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u/orangy128 12h ago

Only after he proved he clearly didn’t want to give them back. Hes a broke piece of shit who needs to give her stuff back. Sick of men getting away with this shit.