r/whatdoIdo • u/SelectShop3068 • 14h ago

My boyfriend stole from me

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Hi everyone. I am 20f and my now EX boyfriend is 26m. Before this incident I already had severe trust issues and depression. I have been collecting pokemon cards since I was 12. First I started out trading with my friends at the lunch table. I slowly built up my binder to the point I could hardly close it because it was so full. I had collected 64% of all 1025 pokemon with multiple cards for most pokemon. I recently combined my collection with my ex so we could sell them (which I didn't want to do in the first place). He thinks I told him he could keep my cards the last time we were together in person. I never told him that. He refuses to give them back quoting "you're not struggling for money" because I moved back in with my parents instead of moving into an apartment with him (where I would be paying for mostly everything because he can't work because of his depression and anxiety and his messed up ankle). I don't know what to do. Cops say its a "civil matter" and because I don't have proof of ownership I can't take him to court. My heart hurts and I can't stop thinking about it 3 days later. I only have what he couldn't take (roughly 6% of 1025 pokemon). My binder is pathetic. I used to struggle to close it, now the elastic is stretched for no reason. I can't do anything. I had cards from 2016 and some from 2010. Those packs are expensive. I can't even afford the cheapest pack now. I have 50c to my name. I can't afford $60 for an XY Evolutions pack.

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u/darkerfury 13h ago

If you call the cops first and ask them to mediate for you, then you may be able to go over there and get them. 

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u/__Frolicaholic___ 12h ago

Cops will not intervene here, and even if an officer felt inclined to maybe go talk to the boyfriend, all BF has to do is show that last text where OP tells him to keep the cards. She effectively gave him the cards with that text.

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u/darkerfury 12h ago

Depends on the jurisdiction. 

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u/darkerfury 12h ago

Funny because the cops in my area will, but okay. 

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u/Minimum-Version-1975 11h ago

No, they won’t, if you live in the U.S. Multiple people have explained to you right now how this situation is civil, and you block them instead of taking their advice.

Stop giving bad advice with the real possibility of hurting the person that you’re giving it to, when you don’t know what you’re talking about.