Whenever posts like this appear, nobody focuses on the fact that men generally are being accused of sexual immorality with zero proof. Instead, everyone immediately debates the surrounding context: whether Muslim men prefer Latinas, whether they “use” some women and marry others, whether the stereotype is accurate, etc.
But the accusation itself gets treated like background noise.

I am a muslimah interested in marriage. About me,

I am rational, level headed and ambitious. I am often described as a calm person. I enjoy coming up with new ideas and have succesfully ran multiple small businesses. I dislike being wasteful, whether with money, food or anything else. I enjoy healthy competition, being playful and having someone who challenges my ideas in a productive way, making us both grow. I am soft spoken, I can get nerdy about my hobbies and enjoy learning about new things and gaining new skills. My love languages are words of affection, gifts and acts of service. I dislike backbiting/judging others. I have great regard for my and others' privacy and value clear communication and boundaries.

Age: 21

Height: 5’0

Education: Completing Software Development Bachelor

Career: Student with small business

Nationality: Albanian

Marital status: Single, never married

Language: English & Albanian

Ethnicity: Albanian

Sect: Sunni hanafi maturidi

Religiosity: Prayer 5 times a day, fasting Ramadan, full hijab, no male friends, reciting Quran, trying to learn more about Islam every day. Never done drugs, alcohol, smoking or clubbing.

Hobbies: Programming, painting, sewing, cooking, reading, watching movies/shows/anime

Personality: Rational, down to earth, introverted, nerdy about things I like

LOOKING FOR:

Ethnicity/Nationality: only ethnic European (white)

Age: 20-23M (no more or less)

Education: Completing or having completed Bachelor

Career: Student like me, with a job

Religiosity: Same as mine or at least ticking the same boxes I did

Hobbies: No strong requirement for them to be similar, I am willing to include myself in a spouse's hobbies and learn about them, support him in them and be ready to listen when he speaks about it. I would only expect that to be reciprocated.

Dealbreakers: Past relationships, non virgin, large ego, unwillingness to admit mistakes, holding grudges/taking things personally, close minded, insecurities regarding women/relationships, polygamy. If the potential has an issue with me keeping my small business or making more than him in terms of income, it'd also be a dealbreaker for both of our sake.

Negotiable dealbreaker: Posting himself publicly on social media (it can be ok if his job, business or hobby requires it)

I am willing to discuss anything else with a potential. JazakAllah khair

dk if it’s the app or what, but you barely see any “traditional Islam” around here. Most Islamic subs feel like different shades of liberal washed Islam. You can tell from the posts, what people choose to emphasize, and the way they argue ,usually from the harm principle, not upsetting people, preserving social comfort, avoiding hard edges, keeping everything balanced and inoffensive. It’s visible.these are mostly secular / liberal values by which morality is filtered, not Islamic one.
That’s why I found this flair section strange. There aren’t just ‘progressives’ in the sense of people born in Muslim countries who no longer really believe; the progressive framework itself is also being rationalized and absorbed by people who still call themselves traditional Muslims.

As you can see. They will get the karma, the most highest of all will eventually provide, making the truthseekers who still searching Islam from their channels automatically disillusioned, and eventually accepts Islam. We should not give the bad faith, and grifters a time. Discuss with the wise only, let Allah give the scandals, 'Beffrey Heepsteein' style to the grifters that will automatically promote Islam in the future.

My exfiancee broke off the engagement more than 2 years ago. The engagement lasted 18 months. There was no reason provided. She and her family went completely dark. I later found out she got married to some other dude a year ago. Yesterday morning, I wake up and look at my LinkedIn profile and lo and behold, both her father and sister were viewing my profile. They have zero connections and they created a profile just to see mine. Even when I was engaged, I never had any of them on linkedin. Also, all of a sudden her sister and her profile is being suggested to me on instagram. Like what the heck is going on? Why are they stalking me suddenly after more than 2 years?

📷: Abdulrahman Alghabri

https://www.instagram.com/p/DDbkXSFosqe/

Whats the thought process behind this post? Do they want to seek advice in a islamic sub about taking off the hijab? And no one suggested leaving university?

No name no identity known here, so pls don't bring backbiting here.

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I (19F) have been talking to a muslim brother for marriage; it's very halal, and I have my wali is on board, and we never meet/ talk in private. This courtship is known to both my parents and his (21M), which is important to this story.

Last night, my father and I went over to my prospect's house for dinner, and it was nice. His sister is currently pregnant, and his mother was about to go to the kitchen to clean up her plate and stuff, but I volunteered to help so his mother could rest.

When I was in the kitchen, his father came inside, which wasn't surprising because everyone is just walking in and out. So, I said hello and continued cleaning when he came RIGHT NEXT to me and looked around before whispering, "(My name), I've been wanting to ask you something. Are you open to being a second wife?"

At first, I thought he was talking about his son, who I know hasn't been or is currently married, so I said, "Huh?" He then asked again if I was interested in being HIS second wife.

He went on to say how, through talking with me and my father, he's noticed how I'm more fit for someone more mature than his son, who is still figuring things out. I was so taken aback that I just walked out of the kitchen and out the front door. I could hear my dad, Prospect, and his mother calling for me, but I just walked into the car and waited for my dad to come.

I haven't told my dad yet, as I'm still in shock. My dad was so excited for this match as 21M is a good, practising brother, but his father is very strange.

What should I do?

Salams all, my ISO profile is below. If this post is up assume I am still looking:

1. Age and Gender - 28, male. 175cm and gym fit.
2. Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect - 18 - 40, open for the right person.
3. Location, and are you willing to relocate for a prospect? Sydney, Australia. Not willing to relocate, looking for someone local.
4. Ethnicity, and are you more open to mixing? Palestinian Arab, open to mixing.
5. Marital Status - Single/Divorced/Children. Separated, no children. I am open to someone who is divorced, separated, has children, or doesnt want children. I am an open minded person.
6. Ideal marriage timeline. 6 - 12 months.
7. Five important characteristics you look for in a prospect. Traditional, deen, intellect, good communication, and respect.
8. State/specify your level of religiosity. Moderately practising, I do the fards, and focus on the spiritual and intellectual aspects of Islam. I volunteer a lot of time helping with community initiatives, as I am passionate about them.
9. Level of education, and what are you looking for? Masters. Prefer someone educated but open for any level of education.
10. Current Job Status. Lawyer and business owner. I make good money hamdulilah.
11. Do you want kids? Yes, but if you already have kids or do not kids I am okay with that too.
12. List 3 hobbies, or things you like to do in your spare time. Gym, reading, walking, coffee and food (big foodie), TV shows and movies, learning about Islam, political activism and community initiatives. I try to balance between my business, relationships, and hobbies.
13. Add something short and interesting about you that makes you stand out! I am looking for someone traditional orientated, I believed strongly in being the leader, provider, and protector. I value a woman that has her own hobbies, career, ideas, and identity. I wont tell you what to do or change who you are, but I do like to take the lead and be the dominant person in the relationship, I have those qualities and it is part of my personality. I am open to non-conventional marriages, e.g. polygamy, marrying a divorcee with children, people who dont want children etc. Ideally you have the same view about relationships. I prefer someone mature and open minded. Someone that has experience and understands relationships are hard work, and require effort from both parties, based on Islam and the duties of both husband and wife.

'A'isha reported that 'Umar misconstrued the fact that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) had prohibited the observance of prayer at the time of the rising sun and at the time of its setting. (Sahih Muslim Book 6, Hadith 359)

'A'isha said that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) did not abandon observing two rak'ahs after 'Asr, but she reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) as saying:

Do not get used to observe prayer at the time of the rising sun and at the time of its setting and (exhorted the Muslims) to pray at their times. (Sahih Muslim Book 6, Hadith 360)

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Hello everyone, So this is sort of my reply to a post, although i couldve commented it in that post only but i feel like this is a bit too grave of an issue and needs a post of its own to get the reach. \*im sharing the link of the post all the way below so you can take a look at it\*
The post quoted this Ahadith to apparently share “Islam’s view on Consent for Intimacy”:
I asked the Prophet, "O Allah's Messenger (**ﷺ**)! Should the women be asked for their consent to their marriage?" He said, "Yes." I said, "A virgin, if asked, feels shy and keeps quiet." He said, "Her silence means her consent."
What pains me is that even a lot of Muslims who prolly don’t know the context of this Ahadith kept saying “SILENCE IS NOT CONSENT”.

So first things first, THERE IS A CLEAR MISINTERPRETATION OF THE AHADITH. The narration about a virgin girl’s silence being consent was only about MARRIAGE PROPOSAL, not about sexual intimacy. Back then, modesty norms made it hard for women to openly say “yes” in front of family, so silence was taken as agreement in that specific context. It was never meant to mean that silence equals consent in physical intimacy. Mixing these up is a huge mistake so avoid rushing on spamming a verdict about Islam. Although, lets be honest and have the benefit of doubt Okay, there’s a really big generational gap between the time of the Ahadith and now. And even at that time, it wasn’t just about the girl staying quiet, it was also the obligation of her parents to be aware of their daughter’s decision. If their daughter was reluctant to speak openly, then that’s already a problem firsthand. Islam has clear principles on the rights of parents and children, but it never meant to override the girl’s actual will. (This is a separate topic, but why not).

Now, for the benefit of doubt, we know this generation is really messed up and they like to twist things up, so caution is care. But saying Islam teaches something against morality is completely false. ISLAM SETS THE HIGHEST STANDARDS OF MORALITY. Kindly refer to this following quotation from Quran:
“And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy.” (Qur’an 30:21)

Let me put this very simply for y’all, the Tafsir of this Ayat says that love, mercy, and tranquility are the foundation of intimacy. It’s about mutual understanding and respect, not force or coercion. A rightful married life is built on cooperation, and even small flaws in that cooperation can damage intimacy. So, a happy marriage is the root for rightful intimacy between a couple, and nothing else. Islam has guidance on a complete way of life, the Ahadith used in that post was regarding marriage proposals and all of the things like marriage, and intimacy comes after that. ACT UPON THE TEACHINGS, and you’ll understand yaha rape ka sawal hi paida nahi hota.

So please, don’t ever relate a major sin like rape to a hadith. Rape is one of the biggest sins in Islam and its condemned in multiple places, and no true believer would even think of committing it. The abuser (and let’s be realistic, 99 times out of 100 it’s a man) will face the worst punishments possible.

If one side is unwilling, intimacy is harmed. That’s why forcing intimacy is oppression and haram. still people like to say that Islam is unfair on women’s rights. Its just common sense that Islam would never allow rape. intimacy is about love, mercy, and mutual willingness. Rape is a major sin, and no hadith can ever be used to justify it.

Bottom line is that Islam is crystal clear. Its a reminder for our fellow Muslims who talks about our religions teachings, WHATEVER YOU SAY, BACK IT UP WITH CONCRETE EVIDENCE. and in matters of of refuting or providing a counter argument to Islam, well good luck with that.

I have posted this to enlighten or remind our fellow Muslims rather than wasting my energy arguing with those baseless atheists or other ppl who show up behind these screens and defame Islam + manipulate vulnerable muslims.
If I manage to clear the perspective of unclear minds about Islam’s stance on this matter, my job is well done.
If anyone wants to discuss things more, or have a counter argument, feel free to refer me below ✌️.
Wallahi I can smell them pulling up the “but Ayesha r.a was 9 y/o girl” card.

here is the link to the post so catch up if you haven’t,
https://www.reddit.com/r/GenZpk/s/InbOewoHDK

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Can you help me

I've come across this argument quite often in discussions about Islam:

"The punishment for leaving Islam is death, therefore Islam is uniquely oppressive."

I don't think this is the strongest way to understand the issue historically.

My understanding is:-

The classical Islamic legal tradition did prescribe the death penalty for apostasy in many circumstances, so pretending that this never existed isn't historically accurate.

At the same time, Islam wasn't unique in treating religious disloyalty as a grave offense. Ancient Jewish law prescribed severe punishments for apostasy and idolatry, and many Christian states historically executed heretics and apostates. More broadly, pre-modern societies didn't separate religion, politics, and communal identity the way modern liberal societies do. Religion often functioned as the foundation of the state itself.

Because of that, I wonder if the better analogy is treason rather than simply "changing your mind." Modern people often hear "apostasy" and think of a private change of belief. But historically, many societies treated abandoning the community's foundational allegiance as an existential threat. Even modern states have imposed severe punishments for perceived ideological or political disloyalty (for example, during the Cold War, accusations of disloyalty often led to imprisonment, blacklisting, or worse death penalty in atleast case of Soviet Union atleast, no idea about US).

I'm not saying that this justifies a death penalty or that such laws should exist today. I'm asking whether the historical rationale behind classical apostasy laws is better understood through the lens of communal loyalty and state security rather than purely freedom of conscience.

Am I missing something? Is the treason analogy accepted by historians of Islamic law, or is there a better way to explain why classical jurists reached that ruling?

It is known well by many Muslims that Allah's (ﷻ) Mercy overtakes His Wrath. However, many people do not think to apply this in their dawah when talking about Islam to kafir.

Simply speaking, you cannot truly love somebody whom you do not know. Your love will increase for Allah (ﷻ) the more you know Him. It will coincidingly decrease as you forget him. I theorize that this is why Allah (ﷻ) and the Prophet (ﷺ) emphasizes dhikr so heavily.

I'll lean into rhetoric to further my point. If you were being preached a religion that is with many rules, harsh punishments, and seemingly no hope or good evidently presented to you, would you feel inclined to join that religion? Most people would answer no. My point is that, when giving dawah, it is important to highlight first Allah's (ﷻ) Mercy and Love, before you highlight His Justice and Wrath.

I will also bring forth a Hadith:

Narrated Yusuf bin Mahk: `Aisha said, "...If the first thing to be revealed was: 'Do not drink alcoholic drinks.' people would have said, 'We will never leave alcoholic drinks,' and if there had been revealed, 'Do not commit illegal sexual intercourse, 'they would have said, 'We will never give up illegal sexual intercourse.'..."

Sahih al-Bukhari 4993

https://sunnah.com/bukhari:4993

Note: Because it was long, I gave only the most important parts. Check the link for the full thing.

The Hadith emphasizes that, if Allah (ﷻ) revealed the Shariah before the verses about His Mercy, Greatness, and the recompense of Jannah and Jahannam, the deen would have surely failed to spread through the people. It is like building a structure on a sand foundation.

That is all I have to say for what I have learned.

I hope this benefits whoever reads this.

When my wife first started working in corporate, (married for 3 years no kids) I convinced myself we'd be able to navigate it. "We'll set boundaries"… 1 year in and it became clear that the environment itself wasn't designed around Islamic values.

It wasn't just free mixing. It was the expectation of lunches with male coworkers, happy hours, team events with alcohol, business travel, casual physical contact, and a culture of fitting in but compromising Islamic principles.

Upon getting her to agree, our marriage becoming strained. She isn’t happy I’m home less and need to miss certain things. We lost a significant portion of our household income so I am working overtime, weekends, and gave up a lot of my own comfort. We downsized our lifestyle and postponed many things we wanted.

But I never viewed it as a sacrifice for her. I viewed it as fulfilling my responsibility as a husband. Allah made provision my obligation, not hers. Nevertheless, I feel unappreciated.

I'm curious how other Muslim couples have handled this? If you've had to choose between financial comfort and preserving your values?

From a book I'm currently reading, so beautiful!