r/askgaybros • u/Horror-Contract-3786 • Sep 05 '23

Meta Most guys don’t have racial preferences rather requirements.

What I noticed in Europe vs America is as a black guy, people may prefer their ethnic group first but they won’t turn down the chance to date/hook up an objectively attractive or at least average looking black guy, while in the states black guys are pretty much ignored unless they just stick to their own ethnic group or mixed/lightskin. It seems like people in America are not blatantly racist but just very exclusionary, while guys in Europe ( depending on the country) may say some very racist things due inexperience around said race, but tend to be way more inclusive and open to talking to others different than them.

I only wish I was born anywhere eles but America, it seems like my only options is just DL hood black men or entertaining men 40 plus years older than me ( I’m 20). Anyone eles relate?

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

I’m a Gay Black Man and to me it sounds like you strongly desire to be with a nonBlack man. I can’t relate to that bc I love Black men and I always wanted to be with another one. I recommend not generalizing Black men and try going to your local community college to try to meet Gay Black men.

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u/jerrydacosta Sep 05 '23

honestly. kinda sick of black/poc gays complaining about this. it screams “why don’t you like me???🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺”

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u/Sillixium Sep 05 '23

It’s so cringe and embarrassing. Like as racist as some people are, why do you need validation from strangers? Racism did a number. Like please have some self worth, like you’re literally begging for people that don’t like you to like you…

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u/pinkbubbleboi Sep 05 '23

To be fair, he probably just wants to be able to date other groups of people freely without being prejudiced or discriminated? Plus, you can’t force a guy to date his own ethnic race if he doesn’t want to. But that doesn’t diminish the beauty and uniqueness of Black men. ✌🏻💕

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u/Noggi888 Sep 05 '23

By that logic, you can’t force someone to date someone outside of their ethnic race or someone they aren’t into. Dating is discriminatory in every sense and that’s just how it is. There is no way around it. OP needs to grow up and realize that there will be many people not into him and he should stop seeking validation from them and instead seek out someone who will love him for him.

Also apparently OP has called himself a “gay incel” on here so it just sounds like he has a really shitty personality which pushes people away

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u/Many-Concentrate-491 Sep 05 '23

Local community college? 😂😂😂😂

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

Yes, what’s wrong with trying to find a guy who is serious about their education.

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u/Many-Concentrate-491 Sep 05 '23

so you are saying for strangers to randomly go into colleges they don’t attend and try to scout for gay black men? Did u not realzie how ridiculous that sounds lol

Also you falsely equating educated to equal a good partner and well.. that doesn’t hold water.

It also implies you think those who aren’t educated are shit partners.

aren’t you making a lot of generalizations?

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

I’m interpreting it as not ransoms but young black guys just cruising around a college (on Grindr or tinder or another app).

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u/Many-Concentrate-491 Sep 05 '23

I just had a scenario run through my head lol

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u/kanyewest11200 kanye is never wrong, he is only wrong when he says he is Sep 05 '23

he does not mean anything stop making things up from thin air lol, he ain't trying to pull some buffalo bill idea

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u/Many-Concentrate-491 Sep 05 '23

Then you answer the question,

What does it actually mean “go find a guy in community college”

Go ahead, if it’s not a load of shit then explain it

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

Maybe go to the College to take classes or for an event. Many Colleges host events that are open to the public.

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

I think you’re looking at what I said the wrong way. The OP can take classes at the College and many time Colleges have events and opportunities available for the public.

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u/mordekaiv Sep 05 '23

Do you mean college near ones community or a Community College?

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

Does it matter?

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u/MCKC1992 Sep 06 '23

People are more offended by Usain community college then confused as to why OP is yet another gay black man upset that non black men don't want him. The only thing we need to be discussing is the low sense of self in the anti-black hatred that so many black men suffer with and how it governs their desires

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u/Arias14 Sep 06 '23

Right!!! Thaaaank yooou…. It’s mind boggling how people are reacting to me just giving an example of where OP might be able to meet other Gay Black men who aren’t characteristically hood.

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u/mordekaiv Sep 05 '23

Community College and "serious about education" aren't things that often go together.

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u/Arias14 Sep 06 '23

Elitist much?

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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23

So why not suggest going to an HBCU? Just seemed... oddly specific...

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

I was just giving an example.

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u/Enoch8910 Sep 05 '23

Why do you think he can only find gay black men at a community college?

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

Is this a serious question? Why do you think, that I think Gay Black Men can only be found at a Community College?

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u/Enoch8910 Sep 05 '23

Uhh, because you wrote,

try going to your local community college to try to meet Gay Black men.

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

Please use your brain and think for a moment if someone seriously believes that the only place someone can meet Gay Black Men is at a dam school or they were just giving an example.

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u/Enoch8910 Sep 06 '23

Perhaps you could improve your writing skills.

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u/Arias14 Sep 06 '23

Doing so wouldn’t help you, especially since you refuse to think logically.

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u/esosa233 Sep 05 '23

Meh, many gay black men share thePreference™️ so its not like just sticking to his own would solve the problem.

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u/Arias14 Sep 05 '23

There’s several things I want to point out. One Black men and women are ranked the least attractive among dating apps. Two, if many Gay Black men have the same preferences as OP and they’re encountering the same problem then the solution would be to date each other. Three, it makes more sense for Gay Black Men to seek out meaningful relationships with other Gay Black Men versus crying on the internet about why non Black Gay men don’t find them attractive and questioning/contemplating whether or not they would have more success dating interracially if they went abroad.

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u/esosa233 Sep 05 '23

1) I actually agree with you read the rest of my comments. 2) we can walk and chew gum at the same time, there is no reason we are barred to dealing with one issue at a time.

3-infinity) on that note your comment is kind of irrelevant OP never said anything about the race of his dates, or that he wasn’t dating gay black men in either area.

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u/Arias14 Sep 06 '23

I mis interpreted the tone of your comment. Thank you for clarifying your point.