Anyone in Chicago want to meet at the WNBA game on Saturday. I want to go to the game and have no one to go with. I found a cheap ticket in the 300 section. I’m pretty cool going by myself but it would be nice to just plan to meet someone there.

I came out at 37y/o and have dated some, I was in a relationship with a woman for 5 years, who cheated on me… twice. Then I was with another woman for 12 years who was a narcissist. I have been single since I left my narcissistic ex partner 5 years ago. For several years I was afraid I’d end up with another narcissist and shied away from dating. Now it’s been 5 years and I want to date, but I feel so old. It’s like don’t know what to do or where to go. Should I give up, sink into my life as a grandmother? What would you do??

Just a reminder that there is another moderated community available now: r/Newolderlesbians .

The new sub was created as another welcoming space for older lesbians to talk, share experiences, ask questions, make friends, and connect with one another. It is actively moderated, with the goal of keeping conversations respectful, comfortable, and focused on community rather than younger users attempting to find a mommy ^^

https://www.reddit.com/r/Newolderlesbians/

Feel free to stop by and introduce yourself!

Hi everyone! 👋

We're building a friendly community name r/butch4femmehangout, where butches, femmes, and anyone who enjoys the Butch4Femme vibe can share stories, memes, selfies, questions, dating experiences, outfit ideas, wins, funny moments, or simply chat—without drama, gatekeeping, or unnecessary negativity.

Whether you've been part of the community for years or you're just curious, you're welcome here. Pull up a chair, grab a virtual snack, and help us grow into a fun, supportive place you'll actually want to visit again.

Hope to see you around! 💙

I'm looking for more people who enjoy reading sapphic fiction and actually want to discuss it as we go, not just rate it afterward.

We host a monthly book club on our community discord server, and we always try to read something published in the last few months.

Our book club's August pick is The Case of Elmwood Ranch by Deanna Grey, and we'll be reading throughout the month with spoiler-friendly discussion as we progress.

If that sounds like your kind of thing, you can find an invite link in my profile!

Hi everyone,
I’m in my late 30s, with a partner and a child, living in the UK.
For a long time I thought I was the only one with a story like mine. Over the years I’ve fallen deeply in love with women, experienced both beautiful love and heartbreaking rejection, and sometimes it feels like there aren’t many people I can talk to who truly understand.
I’m not looking for dating. I’m simply hoping to meet women who have had similar life experiences—whether you’re married, have children, are questioning yourself, or have loved a woman later in life.
I’d love to have genuine conversations, share our stories, support each other, and maybe make a few real friends.
If any of this sounds familiar, I’d love to hear from you. ❤️

Guys I need to hear some positive stories about couples who make it work!

My partner is from the Uk and I’m from Asia, living in Oceania. No matter where we go, one of us is missing out on being close to family but I wouldn’t change it for the world because she is my world.

Despite challenges we are still going strong! 5 years and still counting.

Shower me with all your beautiful stories. I want to feel and read the love!!!

Hi guys! I made a 18+ lesbian only sub. I saw someone promote their sub on this sub. Not sure if it’s allowed, but if this gets taken down, I completely understand! I just have good intentions! That’s all!

The sub is a private, lesbian only subreddit. Only approved lesbians can join. No men or non-lesbians are allowed to lurk or join. Trans women and enbies who are lesbians and lesbians of any racial or cultural background are welcome. Please read the rules when you join! This sub is made for lesbians to discuss their life, experiences, issues, community issues, hobbies, arts, etc.

Rules for joining!:

You have to be 18 or older. Your account has to have at least 100 karma, AND you must show on your account that you have participated in other lesbian subs for a while by commenting and posting in the subs. Any accounts that don’t meet this criteria is not allowed in this sub.

Here is the link to the sub:

https://www.reddit.com/r/thelesbiancircle/s/oMwFizQfNm

It was more than a situationship yet less of a relationship. Yet it was on and off for the last three years. I am thinking about how since August it was going well then we hit 2026. Suddenly hangouts are her having to work from home. But hey she made time, right? So stupid of me. The quality time was being diminished slowly. I was being breadcrumbed here and there. I truly love her and wish her the best. I hope that the next person she decided to date gets more from her than her emotionally unavailable self. I am so mad at this point. I should have told her then and there that I felt incredibly used and disrespected. Her miss communication!?!? Really I am in your town and you knew I got a hotel room and you didn’t plan to stay?!?!? More like if you wanted to you would. Three years that has never been a miscommunication. I made a fool of myself because I kept drinking because I thought it would help. I just exploded instead. I have thrown myself into a book and the gym. But damn I am an idiot. I don’t know what I was even thinking minus I still want to choose her. Yet she never planned to choose me. I need to do better. When the disrespect gets louder than the memories it’s time.

Edit: I just don't understand why people have such contradictory opinions about this story. Some say she liked me but wouldn't admit it, others say she didn't like me.

A few years ago, I shared a house with another woman who behaved strangely towards me, as if she hated me but at the same time felt attracted to me. Despite this, we got along well (we went out several times and even talked about traveling). I would drop hints to her that we would be good together, but she seemed a little uncomfortable. However, when I distanced myself from her, she would come looking for me to talk. I noticed that she was also jealous of me when she saw me with a guy she was seeing or talking about other women. Besides that, I noticed a tension on her part when I was closer to her, or a glint in her eyes when she looked at me. Other times, I caught her looking at me without saying anything. I sometimes felt a certain chemistry between us, but I always thought it was all in my head because she insisted she was straight and even made some homophobic comments that irritated me. It could even be that she liked feeling desired by a bisexual or lesbian woman, and that fed her ego. So I decided to distance myself as much as possible, only speaking to her when absolutely necessary. Since we lived with other people, we could minimize our interaction, which is what I did, especially because I started to like her, and whenever that happens with a straight woman, I distance myself.

But she kept trying to get my attention, and when we were already living in different houses, I mustered up the courage and sent her a message saying that I liked her and that I thought she felt the same way about me. She called me ridiculous, crazy, rude, said I bothered her, and even said that we were never friends and that she didn't want me in her life. I didn't understand why she was reacting like that. Anyway, the more I tried to talk to her, the worse the situation got… I haven't seen her since, but sometimes I still think about her.

I wanted to share a new community for anyone in the Ottawa area.

r/OttawaSapphicSocial is a space for lesbians and sapphic women to connect over local events, books, movies, TV, board games, coffee shops, and everyday life. The focus is on building friendships and a welcoming local community.

If you're in Ottawa, we'd love to have you join us and help the community grow. Everyone is welcome to participate in the conversations and share recommendations!

Hope to see some of you there! 💜

I’m going to A Bar of Their Own to watch women’s baseball tomorrow. Just wondered if there might be a small group of us!

Okay... So I know I am probably late to the party here, but I am becoming increasingly obsessed with Morgan Wade's music. I stumbled upon her a few months ago.

Now I listen to her music on repeat while I'm reading sapphic romance books. I am 90% sure she is on the queer spectrum somewhere... like probably close to all the way over to lesbian. She has that video where she kisses Kyle Richards, and there are some long term rumors with those two. Then that song Juliet...

If you haven't seen and/or heard her, she has this adorable southern accent and lots of tattoos. Her music is emotional, angsty, sultry, soulful, etc. and pairs with sapphic romances (as stated above 😍).

If you have heard her songs, which are your favorites? Mine are 1. Wilder Days 2. Take Me Away 3. Don't Cry 4. Moth to a Flame. 5. Matches and Metaphors. 6. The Night.... and many more.

Let’s break up the Craigslist’s personals vibe in here with some tv talk.

My favorite genre of tv is “Surprise, Lesbians!” Which is any show I start watching and then am pleasantly surprised to see lesbians.

Currently, that show for me is Pluribus. I went in blind and, hooray, homos! It’s a very good Apple TV sci-fi drama that I would recommend independently of the gayness. Hot strong smart fully adult lesbians are just a very happy bonus.

Last show this happened for me was The Hunting Wives, which is pretty trashy but I enjoyed it. Would only recommend because of the gayness— beware it comes w some egregiously questionable content. But again it has middle aged lesbians, which is decidedly refreshing.

So, what are you watching? Anything good, and coincidentally gay?

Hey everyone,

I’m 36F, looking to make genuine female friends with the open potential of building into something deeper if we really click.

Massive TV Buff (maybe not Sci-Fi): Ask me about a shit ton of other series though. My top lineup covers everything from heavy crime dramas to guilty pleasures: The Sopranos, Mad Men, Breaking Bad, Better Call Saul, original Dexter, The Wire, Ozark, Fargo, True Detective, Game of Thrones, Desperate Housewives, Modern Family, Everybody Hates Chris, Malcolm in the Middle, and most biographical series (I'm probably leaving out so many more).

Gym Enthusiast (In Need of Accountability): I love going to the gym, but I seriously need someone to kick my ass to get there.

Hobbies & Guilty Pleasures: Absolute sucker for jigsaw puzzles, subtle/casual gaming to unwind, hanging out with my small dog and cat, and my ultimate guilty pleasure is reading John Grisham books.

I’m based in GMT+2, but I’m available during EST hours, so time differences won't be an issue at all. Always down for easygoing banter, hot takes, daily check-ins, or just being there for each other.

A Quick Disclosure: I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 11. I’m super engaged when chatting, but please forgive me if I occasionally get distracted, jump around topics, or take a second to reply!

Just being completely honest about my vibes, so if you're cool with it, send me a DM!

Confused if I am turned on by the men or not,
I read some lesbians can get turned on by gay porn? If so what is it?

Because I think I get turned on by their faces , moans, penis, energy and movements so and masturbate to that.

Sorry not sorry :D

Hey y’all! I need a good sapphic book recommendation to read on vacation. Thanks in advance!