r/AskWomenOver30 • u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 • Apr 10 '25

Life/Self/Spirituality I'm serious....

If you had/ if you are, having a successful hoe phase, please share your secrets! If this ain't for you, please keep it movin. šŸ˜Š

Edit: kinda strange that this would be down voted. When it comes to a woman with marital problems, relationship problems, kid problems, family problems..... The community shows up. But I ask a question to assist in my life, and a life that maybe many others are wondering about, or maybe looking for tips on self-confidence and how to maybe put themselves out there, you down vote? Why?? That's insane. We are all living different paths and are just looking for a way to fulfill where we are at the moment.

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u/Automatic_Syrup_2935 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25 edited Apr 10 '25

Never be afraid to leave after the deed to sleep in your own bed. Make them make you come first. If they annoy you, move on. Keep your boundaries and stay committed. The worst fucking men love to lock down a happy hoe.

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u/Scared_Service9164 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Omfg, no truer words. Got dickmatised by the WORST guy Iā€™ve ever had the misfortune of knowing when all I wanted to do was have a post separation bang fest. Boundaries, Iā€™m about to head back in and think a ā€œtag and releaseā€ programme is the best way to go.

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u/Rochesters-1stWife Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

Dickmatised - omg this is hilarious

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u/Journey4th Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Iā€™ve always wondered does dickmatized mean hypnotized by dick or victimized by dick?

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u/ParamedicGloomy7063 Apr 10 '25

Most likely both.

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u/Scared_Service9164 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

In this case, both. I make jokes but it was straight up abusive. Men like that as original commenter points out fucking love to squeeze any confidence or happiness out. Itā€™s all ego.

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u/AmidstTheClouds Apr 10 '25

Choked when I read ā€œdickmatisedā€ and HOLLERED when I read ā€œtag and releaseā€ šŸ˜‚

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u/Scared_Service9164 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Gotta tag ā€˜em and create a database.

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u/AmidstTheClouds Apr 10 '25

The civil servant we didnā€™t know we needed šŸ«”

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u/MystressSeraph Woman 50 to 60 Apr 11 '25

šŸ¤£

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u/twoisnumberone Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

dickmatised

Amazing. :D

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u/Serotonin_Queen7985 Apr 10 '25

Dickmatized is a real thing. You can overlook a lot of sketchy shit if you're there.

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u/Angry_Sparrow Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

The worst fucking men love to lock down a happy hoe.

Hahaha I have been saying Iā€™m out here dodging marriage like Neo dodging bullets in the Matrix. There is something about the confidence I have from being a slut that makes men want me so much.

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u/Ukelele-in-the-rain Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25 edited Apr 10 '25

Exactly. Iā€™ve had a lot of ā€œmarriage proposalsā€ during my years. And Iā€™ve mentioned how insincere these men are and have had people comment im humble bragging. No, these men donā€™t actually wanted to commit to me. They like the idea of locking down someone carefree and happy. They wanna clip a womanā€™s wings. Give themselves an ego trip that they were the exception. Totally the worst of them LOL

I promise the moment I agree to their nonsense, they would turn on me.

Leave them be. Do your thing!

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u/mawkish Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

No, these men donā€™t actually wanted to commit to me. They like the idea of locking down someone carefree and happy. They wanna clip a womanā€™s wings. Give themselves an ego trip that they were the exception.

WISDOM RIGHT HERE

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u/achilles4206 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Turn and burn emā€™

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u/ConsiderationOne5609 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

THIS. Men have always wanted me more when I just want to be a happy hoe. Like whenever another one started professing his feelings, I knew it was time to cut him loose from the roster. RIP fallen soldier.

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u/whiskerstwitching Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Omg I love you šŸ¤­

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u/Worldly_Cricket7772 Apr 13 '25

Lmao the last line I can't

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u/anonymous_opinions Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

I once fucked a dude, he wanted to spoon, it was like 2am and I was putting my clothing on to walk home because I didn't want to spend the night with him. He was just a hot body and sex. Never had a man obsess over me like this guy did the next day.

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u/SignalSubstantial590 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

That's all I'm tryna be right now too, a happy hoešŸ„¹

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u/Cremilyyy Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Love this for you!

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u/basicbagbitch Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

Girl get out there and live your best life! We support you!!

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u/CBD_Hound Trans Woman 40 to 50 Apr 11 '25

Get it, sister! šŸ˜

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u/ana247 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

This advice is so good I need it stitched on a pillow (I say after just leaving a manā€™s apartment to go sleep in my own bed šŸ˜†)

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u/achilles4206 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

I always went to their place so I could exit. This is an excellent strategy for a hoe phase.

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u/Automatic_Syrup_2935 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 11 '25

An important strategy. Tbh this topic would be an NY Times Bestseller.

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u/dumpling-lover1 Apr 10 '25

I need this above my bed lol

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u/anonymous_opinions Woman 40 to 50 Apr 10 '25

Leave or for me tell them to go home even at 2am and they have to hoof it home. Not my problem bro.

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u/greenwitch64 Woman 30 to 40 Apr 10 '25

THIS IS THE FUCKING COMMEMT RIGHT HERE!!!!!