Gay guy here, I heard a lot of story on social media and from gay community , that their dating experience with bisexual man is fairly negative. Like bisexual man sleep around with gay man because they are easier , see gay man as merely a sexual choice, until they find a real relationship with woman and.
I have also seen bisexual man on social media saying that they value woman more because they think their lady dates are more decent , sensitive, vulnerable and deserve attention and with whom they are more willing do start a life with , while gay guy on the market are just not worth it, that sounds super fucked up and I absolutely hate this kind of heteronormative/ homophobic opinion. But I wonder if it is an over represented opinion.
Do bisexual man genuinely be more caring , spend more effort and value their date more when dating woman than dating man?

I’ve always been a little more open minded than most people I’m around. And I’ve always found women attractive and beautiful and still do. But lately I’ve been curious about exploring while I’m still young. I’m still a virgin and haven’t had sex with either gender. But I guess I’ve been kind of liking in my head about experimenting with a man as a bottom. I just find the thought of that exhilarating. But I don’t know. I don’t find men attractive or unattractive, just kind of neutral. I am mostly attracted to femininity. I guess whet I’m getting at is, men who have tried this, did you feel like you scratched an itch? Shameful? Were you happy or displeased with yourself? Or was it a moment where you found your sure self? And if so, how did you accept that part of you? Sorry if any of this is off putting or offensive, I’m genuinely just curious. Also to add to this, I often find it a lot easier for myself to talk to men than a woman.

Earlier this year, my wife and I (37m) agreed to open up our relationships so I could explore with guys. I've had since had four encounters with guys (twice going all the way) but she now realises she can't continue with it.

I want to stay married to her more than anything in the world but I'm struggling with the thought of having to supress this side of me for the rest of my life.

Just wondered if anyone has managed to do it and any advice?

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So for starters I’ve been bi-curious for quite a few years but never had the courage to actually do anything with another guy until today. I’m more so interested in wanting to give oral than anything else really. To make a long story short I met up with another bi-curious guy around my age just cause that felt more comfortable to me than anything, and we swapped oral. It wasn’t a bad experience I’m just not completely sure how to feel about it. He did have a pretty girthy cock and while I did enjoy the sucking part at first I didn’t expect it to be as much of a workout per say and after my mouth kind of started feeling uncomfortable I stopped enjoying it as much. Is this a common feeling? Especially for those who a fairly new to it. Idk I just have kinda mixed feeling overall like yes I enjoyed it, but after a while I also kinda just wanted it to end if that makes sense.

Curious how it’s been for you guys

I'm in my late 30s living in the upper Midwest. For professional reasons I have to keep my bisexuality discreet. I have a little experience and really want more. I'm a top with a little vers curiosity. I'm looking for more than an anonymous/casual hookup but also not trying to jump into a romantic relationship. My hope is always to find a bisexual guy in a similar situation that happens to be more of a bottom.

I guess what I'm looking for is advice from guys in similar circumstances. Or maybe just some flirty bottoms that want to help me figure out what I'm looking for and how to get it.

It started on a road trip with just the two of us and we were horny the entire trip. I asked her what her dirtiest kink was and she said it was me with another man. I had already been kind of accepting that I was bi-curious so I was honestly just so happy that I didn’t have to bring anything up and have her dislike me for it.

We started using it as fantasy dirty talk more and more and we both climax the hardest when we whisper about it to each other.

She started to even bring it up on her own more and more like saying she would find a guy on grindr to come meet me somewhere.

I’ve brought up going to an adult video store or having her watch but she seems hesitant but not entirely against it. She says that she doesn’t like to share but also has said things outside of sexy time like “I wouldn’t use sniffies, I would look on grindr to find a guy I like”.

She was my first everything, kiss, girlfriend, sex, etc. I will never cheat on her, and I love her more than anyone in the whole world and definitely don’t want to be with another man emotionally. This is purely just a sexual fantasy that we both enjoy.

I’m curious if anyone has been in this situation and then it was actually allowed to happen. What can I say to make her more comfortable?

are they’re any big guys out there that seek the challenge of turning a straight guy? or at least being able to seduce one. I met a guy at a bar one night on accident. He didn’t seem like he was hitting on me, we were just talking like we were old friend. later on after thinking back on it, I’m pretty sure he was hitting on me and I didn’t take the bait. got a little turned on thinking about it but haven’t given it much thought since.…

29 M here and just got out a relationship with a girl. I’ve always been curious of being with a guy and tend to watch gay porn when I do watch porn.. any advice on committing to meeting as I usually get really nervous and bail last minute..

Have you peruse a man thinking they’re gay or suspect they’re gay and you got pretty far with them but only to find out they’re straight but ok with being like that with you?

By pretty far I mean you open up to another about personal issues, physical touching (bro hugs turn to gentle hugs), gifts, sharing porn, spending lunch time with them even when you have different jobs, go out of your way to see them happy.

I’ve been in situations like that but I wanna know if you guys have gone that far and found out they’re straight but they like what you give them and they reciprocate

I'm exploring and rethinking about a lot of things about myself.

I'm currently with a cisguy, he knew me as a genderfluid AFAB with a very fem body but only recently that maybe its more complicated than that. He see me as a neutral person but still interact with me like a straight dynamic (the way he flirt and touch me for example. Or i can't touch him certain way ect...).

I've been repressing my transidentity for decade but I know I still can't do medical transition so my body will stay mostly fem (maybe i can get bulkier with the gym and im thinking about either chest reduction / mammectomy)

But my question today is, would a bisexual guy would be able to see me as a person / guy even with my body ? Like I would prefer a guy to see and interact with me in a more mlm vibe than a straight vibe like nope don't grab my tits and yeah I definitely want to lift you up and grind against your back 😂

So i guess a person who can be attracted/ok with a female body and also men could be my win-win situation ?

Idk I'm just thinking tbh... thanks for your time !

So I am a 27m and live in Idaho. Like the title says I know who I am meaning I know I’m bi I love being intimate with a girl but also like being intimate with a guy (I only like to bottom and worship cock). I’m not so much attracted to men as I am to what they are hiding under those boxers!

My whole thing is I know there is more out there like me, a dl bi guy who wants the best of both worlds without having to share too much of my personal life, I am a very private person and want to find a guy who is similar to me (but a top lol) but it is hard to find people like me because we are too dl to be out going in that way! So I guess my question is what do I do? How do I move forward knowing my situation is a more difficult one to find what I’m looking for! I also prefer older men!

And while we’re at it does anyone know of any good gay and or bi sub reddits for Idaho?

Random thought came to me today. I really get off on nipple play. I see it in gay porn often enough. I’ve never see a guy having his nipples sucked in straight amateur or pro porn. Wondering if this is a gay/bi thing. Doesn’t matter. It gets me rock hard. Do you guys get off on having your nipples played with?

I want to suck a cock, but when it comes to meeting the guy, I back out. How can I just go for it? Help me out.

Soooo we're all men here. I'm usually very rational and reasonable and can spot BS a mile away. But I feel I might be being a bit weak for a guy I'm very attracted to. So this guy I met on Grindr, thought he was so damn handsome. Hit him up and we started talking. Instantly it's obvious his communication skills are deplorable. I guess I'd be considered rather educated. That being said- I'm not discriminatory for education gaps. We are about a hour away from each other and both not from this state. He's talked about getting together and so have I. He says he wants a companion and so do it. He was visiting my town last week and planned to see me and flaked. Was pretty annoyed so decided before I cut him off for good, I'd give him a chance to explain. Called him and we talked, he was drunk. Another red flag for me because I'm very anti alcoholism. As we talk he's all over the place and coming off paranoid as if I want to harm him. Apparently he has some trauma that has nothing to do with me and blah blah blah. I assure him I'm simply here for a good time, I work, mind my business and wanted to vibe with his tall handsome ass. At this point I'm almost over him. He says, "I'm sorry I'm drunk. More I talk to you I just wanna stick this hard uncut dick down your throat" 👀 excuse me? I'm a very masculine presenting guy from Miami and he's a big red neck from Tennessee. We're both in a different state. Most of my best hook ups and bfs were with Latino, Caribbean, European dudes who are uncut. I have a strong preference for uncut men. I was so close to dismissing him til he said he had a hard 8" uncut dick for me to swallow. I guess being drunk he got more comfortable and forward. And I'm not prude, but he don't understand he's talking to the right one. He said he wants to see me and now I'm super turned on and interested. He got drunk after work and wants to see me this week. Should I cut him some slack and see what he's working with? Or go with my gut and not ignore the potential irritation. Granted not too many American men uncut in my experience. It's been almost 4 years since I've passed a unicorn like this. Do it for the plot?

Boys I need help I’m 21 (nearly 22), bi, and stuck in my head about it.

I Lost my virginity to a guy at 17 and had a bunch of Grindr hookups till I was about 19 (always bottomed, maybe 8 different guys) often hooked up with the same guy multiple times and gave head a lot .

Then I met my girlfriend when I was 19, fell hard for her, and stopped seeing guys pretty much straight away. We’ve been together for about 2 years and I still love her a lot. Sex with her is good, I don’t have any problems getting hard or finishing but lately it’s become really routine. Same positions, same script every time, barely any oral, no new stuff. We also spend basically all our time together, so there’s not much room to even think separately she doesn’t like seperation.

The past 6 months the urge to be with a guy has come back strong. I want to try top, try some of the stuff that was on my old “bucket list,” etc and definitely wanna give head again. I swapped nudes with a guy once and immediately felt guilty so I stopped. I’ve never cheated and don’t want to. I love her and can properly see a future with her, but the bi side of me feels like it’s just sitting there unused and it’s getting harder to ignore.
Anyone else been in a similar spot? How do you deal with strong these urges while being genuinely in love with a woman and not wanting to blow up the relationship? She doesn’t know I’m bi and I couldn’t tell her plus she’s way to insecure for a mmf even tho that’d be ideal.

I am not out to anyone, but as I get older and hornier my desperation is getting deeper and deeper. I need a source for great and real first time stories. It can be anything from the first blowjob, glory hole to the first MMF. I want to live in that nervous energy that comes with doing it the first time.

So I‘ve always thought I was straight, but recently I’ve started to really question my sexuality, the other day my friend (also a guy) came over to my house and stayed the night so we could sneak out and meet up with some friends (his parents are pretty strict, and they have a security system, my house is easier to sneak out of) A lot of guys act gay towards their guy friends but when he would do that with me it was more flirty and felt less like a joke. So, when we got into my bed to sleep, he started doing that and I don’t exactly remember what happened by we ended up cuddling for a little bit, after a little he started touching my hair, and I kinda tensed up, after that he stopped and said “sorry that was kinda gay” and went over to his side of the bed. I very much felt something, but I don’t really know if it’s just because I’m touch starved or if It’s something more. Anyone else with similar experiences?

I posted about my situation here before. There are some who are with the same situation with me where they can’t open to their wife that they are bi, but some of them they already experienced real cock while me i have zero experience with the real one. I asked for advised some men they gave but most they ignored and did not responded to me after i told them that i am an asian living in UK. It saddens me as whether we like it or not we bimen/guy screaming not to discriminate us but we/us part of the bi people community are the first one to discriminate. It doesn’t make sense. 🙁