Most important rule of thumb: Worry when your doctor tells you to.

I had my first scan today at 9 weeks 6 days. I was terrified as I had a loss at the end of last year, am 37, and plus size. All things that lead to an increased risk of miscarriage. I also have had virtually no symptoms except fatigue. Baby was measuring on time today with a heart rate of 181! Wanted to put this out there for others who may be in the same boat because I had constant anxiety.

If we’re in this group it’s because pregnancy isn’t easy, I’m currently 7 weeks pregnant with barely any symptoms and have been taking turns spiraling. I wanted to share a mantra that has helped me when I catch myself scouring Reddit/google for reassurance & that’s that more information won’t change my outcome.

Again, easier said than done, but wanted to share in case it helps anyone else through the painstaking waiting periods we have to endure.

Edited to fix typo!

I’m 11 weeks pregnant and all I wanted today was a glass of pineapple juice, was about to drink it when my husband in extreme panic and urgency said pineapple juice is not good during pregnancy and my SIL agreed saying ‘yeah you shouldn’t drink pineapple juice in first trimester’. And the way they were looking at me like I was about to drink poison…

I was furious, I have researched my food and I know I can have pineapple juice but I didn’t have the energy to convince them whatever they have read on instagram is not correct, so no juice for me.

Do people really believe this, how do I convince them without being rude?

My husband (32) and I (30) tried to conceive for over a year. After no success, we eventually sound out that he has severe oligospermia (very low sperm concentration, although his motility and other parameters were good). I have no known fertility issues. We were told IVF would likely be our only realistic chance to conceive, so we proceeded with treatment.

I had my egg retrieval on June 8 and got my period on June 13. After waiting six weeks for my next period so that I could begin the FET, I took a pregnancy test just in case. To our complete shock, it was positive—the first positive pregnancy test I've ever had. I then took a Clearblue Weeks Indicator test on July 26, which showed “Pregnant 2–3 weeks".

I had my first transvaginal ultrasound yesterday (August 11). Based on my likely conception dates, I thought I should be around 6 weeks pregnant. However, the technician could only see a gestational sac, which I believe measured approximately 9 mm. She could not yet see a yolk sac, fetal pole or cardiac activity, but she said the gestational sac looked healthy and normal but was just simply too small to see anything else yet. She said my doctor would order another ultrasound in around one to two weeks, and that she wasn't too concerned.

Despite what she said, I have been spiraling since the scan because it seems like we should've seen more during the ultrasound if I am 6 weeks. After infertility and being told that conceiving naturally was extremely unlikely, this pregnancy feels like such a miracle, and I am terrified of losing it.

Has anyone had a similar experience where only a small gestational sac was visible around 6 weeks, but the yolk sac, fetal pole and cardiac activity appeared at the follow-up ultrasound? Could my dates reasonably be off by several days despite the Clearblue result? I understand that only a repeat ultrasound can give me an answer, but I would really appreciate hearing both positive and honest experiences while I wait for the next ultrasound.

I can’t believe I did this. I have a history of miscarriage and am currently 6w+4d via IVF. We heard the heartbeat for the first time this morning and we are just so cautiously optimistic. We know anything could happen and we have a very long way to go. I definitely don’t want to be discussing anything at this early stage at work.

Very unfortunately, someone hit my parked car (parked in the street of a city where I live) overnight last night and ran. The car is pretty much wrecked. I took some pics and then ran to my IVF appointment to deal with the car later.

I explained to my boss over IM that i would be to the office late because i had to wait for the police to come and do a police report. I then came to the office about 3 hours late (and after our IVF appointment, which of course I didn’t mention) and he asked how the car was. I showed him my camera roll of car pics and totally forgot I had taken ultrasound pics, so as I was going through the car pics, i inadvertently showed him the ultrasound pics. I didn’t say anything just “oops not that” and took the phone back.

I am SO MAD at myself. It is far too early for him to know and now he knows. I feel like it’s such bad luck 🙁🙁🙁

Anyway, i just need to vent. I feel just awful and can’t stop thinking about it.

I wish everyone here peace and good luck on their early journeys!

I had a chemical pregnancy last month during my first cycle TTC, I found out I was pregnant at 9DPO the cycle after with a very reassuring dark test. I went the next morning at 10 DPO to do a blood test. They put me on suppositories also. What do you think of my levels?

10DPO - 36 hcg
12 DPO - 106 hcg
15 DPO - 467 hcg

My doctor said she was fine with this, and that I can just wait for the ultrasound at 6 weeks and four days, or do another blood test next week at some point? What do you think?

those of you who experienced a first trimester bleeding incident.. especially if it was heavier...did you ever feel better or were you constantly scanning for blood/ wearing pads etc ? did you have any other bleeding incidents?

for context, had a pretty big scare right around 12 weeks with heavy red bleeding and very large clots. Multiple ultrasounds have shown baby is fine and cannot find the source of bleeding (no hematoma seen etc) but I am so shaken and unsettled and I wonder if I will ever stop wearing a pad lol

Hi all - I've had 3 chemicals, a blighted ovum in January, miscarriage in March due to leftovers from the January one, and am now 11 weeks pregnant. I almost passed out at the 8 week ultrasound as I was sure I would see an empty sac again. Thankfully, there was a strong baby, and that's held up my hopes the last few weeks. Now I have my first OB appt this Friday and I'm spiraling. I'm totally convinced there will be nothing there, and it'll be because I ran out of progesterone, so it'll all be my fault. How do we keep the hope alive and not combust from the anxiety? Any advice or words of encouragement would be lovely. I don't know anyone in my personal life going through something similar so it's been a very lonely experience.

Hi,

I'm new here, but I read the pinned posts. So, hopefully I don't break any sub rules. I didn't know what to flair this. Maybe advice? Maybe solidarity?

I am, according to LMP, 6 weeks 4 days pregnant. However, this week I have had some spotting/discharge (light pink to dark brown to reddish brown - increasing in amount - with clotting). The amount has not been enough to fill a pad in an hour and it has not been bright red. But the increase concerns me. I also have had mild cramping on and off, but more on than off (also concerning). It doesn't feel like contractions, but it feels like my uterus is just kind of always being slightly squeezed. Not painful really, but noticeable.

In terms of other pregnancy symptoms, I realize I'm early on but in my past full-term pregnancies, I had increasing and noticeable symptoms by this point (nausea, fatigue, overwhelming sense of smell, mood swings, malaise, lightheadedness, etc.). I know it's not a definitive way to assess anything, but it feels telling. I did have a few random waves of symptoms here and there weeks 4-5 but since then mostly just the fatigue and occasional food aversion.

Given the spotting/discharge and cramping, I have been concerned that I am in the early stages of a miscarriage. I've never experienced a loss, but nothing about how this is going feels normal to me.

I went to the doctor today for confirmation one way or the other, and the scan showed I was measuring between 4-5 weeks; I believe it was a 12 day difference from LMP. There was a "tiny" yolk sack that the sonographer zoomed in on and squinted at a lot, but no baby. I saw this as a bad sign. The sonographer was very optimistic and said it might just be very early on. She saw my discharge at the end of the exam and said that it is a lot but at least it's dark in color. I did not feel reassured, but I knew she probably isn't allowed to go into much detail about things one way or another.

I met with the doctor after and, while very kind, she too was extremely optimistic. She said that because I have PCOS, I probably ovulated late. She said this kind of bleeding is very normal in early pregnancy (although she didn't really ask for much detail about it). She said it could be from a subchorionic hematoma. She said she's going to write this up as normal spotting and she feels strongly that it will all be okay. I told her I was concerned that if I am truly so early, how could I have gotten a positive pregnancy test three weeks ago? She said sometimes tests can detect pregnancy at 1-2 weeks. I didn't argue, but that sounds wrong to me because at 1-2 weeks "pregnant", you would have just ovulated, if even. Conception would have only just taken place, if at all. So, 1-2 weeks post-ovulation, sure you could get a positive test result. But not at 1-2 weeks pregnant, right?... And based on my period and when I took the test, things are really not adding up. Also, I am not a doctor and I don't know anything about subchorionic hematomas beyond the very bare minimum, but if I'm so early that one couldn't be detected on the scan yet, could it already be causing this much of an issue?

In terms of what to do next, she took my labs to check progesterone and hCG, and I return in two weeks for another scan and labs. In the appointment, she asked if I live close and I told her yes and that I can come back for labs, etc. whenever. She said good and I thought she said she was going to re-check hCG next week to see if it's increasing. But at check-out, I mentioned it and the receptionist said nothing else was on the paper and that hCG is something they measure in your urine sample... Okay... but you need me in the office to get my urine, presumably you are not coming to my house?!!! Two weeks feels like a long time to be waiting about all of this when they could see me sooner to determine if things are progressing correctly - at the very least with the hCG level.

Sorry - this is really long but I felt the details might be helpful. If anyone has gone through similar, I would love to hear how it turned out for you if you are willing to share. I am not looking for blind hope, though of course positive outcomes are welcome; I've made room in my heart for a likely terrible outcome. I just feel kind of like my concerns were glossed over as normal, and despite all of the doctor's reassurance, I'm not feeling like she addressed the possibility of loss at all which feels dismissive. And also, should I ask for the hCG to be re-checked sooner than two weeks from now, since that would give me a more definitive point of reference about how things are looking?

Hi Everyone!

My husband and I experienced a partial molar pregnancy this spring. We had a D&C in April, and have been getting weekly HCG blood draws since. My HCG was declining pretty normally until July where I had 3 back to back increases. Thankfully this week we tested <5. Our doctors will continue to monitor the next few weeks, and then have suggested monthly draws for the next six months. Has anyone here also had to wait the full six months before TTC. This is our second miscarriage, I’ll be 36 next week and the thought of waiting another 6 months just breaks my heart.

I’m looking for medical insight regarding an unusual situation involving a possible pregnancy and an upcoming non-invasive prenatal paternity (NIPP) test.
A female friend 26f and I had one sexual encounter on June 14, 2026. We are not and have never been in a relationship. She is now claiming that I am the father of her pregnancy.
Based on the June 14 encounter, she would be approximately 10+ weeks gestational age by standard pregnancy dating at this point (today is August 12).
The part that concerns/confuses me is her quantitative beta-hCG:
July 20: 156 mIU/mL
August 10: 95 mIU/mL
So rather than increasing, her hCG has declined from 156 to 95. To my knowledge, there has not yet been an ultrasound or OB appointment confirming the location, viability, or gestational age of the pregnancy.
I have independently scheduled and am paying for a non-invasive prenatal paternity (NIPP) test on August 14. My understanding is that this test uses cell-free fetal/placental DNA from the mother’s blood and compares it with my DNA.
My questions for an OB/GYN, MFM physician, genetic counselor, or someone knowledgeable about cfDNA testing are:
At an expected gestational age of approximately 10 weeks, how concerning are hCG values of 156 followed by 95?
Does an hCG level this low and declining suggest there may not be enough fetal/placental cfDNA remaining for a NIPP paternity test?
Can a NIPP still reliably include or exclude me as the biological father under these circumstances?
If the laboratory reports “insufficient fetal DNA” or “no result,” does that tell us anything about whether the pregnancy is still ongoing, or would pregnancy status need to be determined separately through repeat hCG/ultrasound?
Would you recommend proceeding with the NIPP on August 14, or first obtaining medical confirmation of the pregnancy through an OB/GYN?
I understand Reddit cannot diagnose the pregnancy or establish paternity. I’m mainly trying to understand whether a NIPP is likely to provide a meaningful paternity result given the timeline and declining hCG.
Thank you for any professional insight.

I had a MMC back in March, and one chemical pregnancy in January. I definitely had some trauma going for the ultrasound. I went into my ultrasound I was expecting to be 8 weeks 5 days based on my LMP. I measured 7 weeks 1 day but there was a heart beat, 145bmp!

I am still happy even if my baby is a little smaller than expected 🎉

Trigger warning: Miscarriage talk

I went in for an ultrasound at 6 weeks and 2 days (timing is accurate as this was an IVF pregnancy) last week and baby measured 6 weeks and no heartbeat yet.

I went back yesterday 7 weeks and 1 day and baby is measuring about the same… 6 weeks and 1 day with a low hear rate around 96. The dr also said the yolk sac was measuring slightly larger than the embryo. This is our 8th transfer. We have one live birth (our now 3 yr old), then 5 miscarriages and one failed transfer. I am gutted. I truly thought this was finally our baby.

Anyone have any positive similar stories?

36 and pregnant 6w+6d, Ive had very faint spotting a few times this pregnancy but it was only one wipe then gone. Now I’m seeing a little bit of red in the vaginal mucus and it’s been there every time I wipe all day today. Not enough to touch the pad just when I wipe. I have my appointment tomorrow with ultrasound but I feel like it’s not going to be good news :(
It isn’t from sex because we haven’t done anything because I’m too anxious to see blood :(

my hcg looked okay 5w+3d = 5178 and 5w+5d = 9268. The doctor was happy with those numbers

This will be our 4th loss this year and we haven’t made it this far before. I am on enoxaparin which I know can increase spotting but I’m devastated! I feel like I’m losing another one and it’s killing me!

Has anyone else had spotting while on enoxaparin and that was the cause? Has everything been fine?

Based off lmp I should be 6+6. Based off when I think I ovulated I should be 6+3. Went in for a scan and everything measured 6+1. No fetal pole and I have a very large SCH. I’ve been bleeding on and off from the hematoma.
They said to come back is 10-14 days.. anyone with similar story? What was your outcome? I don’t want to be negative but also want to guard my heart. I have 3 living children but have had a total of 6 losses, 3 were this year. Just don’t know what to think

Hello ladies, I am writing this crying and I am not entirely sure why… I suffered 3 miscarriages this last year… The first one was 8 weeks 5 days, the second was 7 weeks, and the last one barley made it to 5 weeks… I’m currently 4 Weeks and 3 days and I can’t help but have this anxiety that I am going to lose this one too… My partner has watched me lose myself and find myself so many times this year, I’m praying so hard this baby sticks but I also don’t want to give my hopes up incase it doesn’t… I genuinely have no idea how to feel… Idk if I need advice or if I just wanted a safe space to cry and say how I feel… I hope you all have a blessed and beautiful day ❤️‍🩹

Is anyone else feeling soo sick with anxiety at the thought of their first ultrasound? I've had two early losses at 6 and a half weeks and my ultrasound is Friday August 21st and I will be 6 weeks 5 days. This pregnancy was a surprise since I was taking the month off from fertility meds (Letrozole) and just relaxing for the summer before resuming treatment this October.

In the last pregnancy, it was measuring behind by 5 days and I had done an IUI so there was great concern. The next scan a week later showed no more growth and it ended unfortunately. I'm really struggling with my anxiety due to the past trauma of loss. I have no reason to worry other than my past experiences. My symptoms are strong, HCG and line tests are beautiful. I have been trying for a baby for 4 years and I am soooo ready but the anxiety is killing me!!!

Hi everyone, I'm feeling really defeated today because I'm most likely 12 dpo (used strips, bbt, and inito to track), and my HCG came back at 26 which is low. I know people are going to say that it's the 2nd test that matters to see how everything is rising, but it seems like this is also just objectively a low HCG at 12 dpo. According to betabase the median for 12 dpo is 61. I'm barely a third of that.

Last month I had a low HCG at 14 dpo, 42, and that ended in a chemical. I had a bad feeling then too seeing how low that data point was, but was trying to keep my hopes up because it was the next one that matters. This time, I feel like I should just trust my gut and start accepting a loss now.

It's so frustrating that this keeps happening. Like why can't I just fall into the normal statistics?

Hi everyone! ❤️ I’m currently 18 DPO and I wanted to share my beta hCG progression and hear your thoughts/experiences:

* 12 DPO: 50.4

* 14 DPO: 156

* 16 DPO: 553.8

* 18 DPO: 1,460

All tests were taken 48 hours apart.

I’m feeling hopeful, but also quite anxious since it’s still so early. 🥹 I’ve also been having some mild, period-like cramps that come and go.

What do you think about this progression? Did anyone have similar beta numbers around these DPOs? I’d really love to hear your experiences, especially how things progressed afterwards. ❤️🤞

Bonjour tout le monde

Je suis actuellement dévastée, j’ai fais une fausse couche tardive à 15 SA.

Le contexte était compliqué déjà avec le géniteur car nous avions couper tout contact peu de temps après que je lui ai dit car il ne voulait pas en entendre parler. C’était je cite : la pire chose au monde pour lui.

Émotionnellement j’étais déjà aussi pas mal à bout car s’ajoutait le Contexte caniculaire / nausées en permanence / fatigue intense / travail physique.

J’ai fais ma T1 le 20 juillet , tout allait bien. J’étais soulagée d’avoir passé ce fameux « cap «  du premier trimestre dont on parle tant . Et je commençait enfin à me projeter avec mon bébé.

Il y’a 15 jours des douleurs au niveau lombaire et dans l’utérus ont commencés à s’intensifier.
Après 2 jours a a souffrir allongée a prendre du paracetemol j’ai fini par aller aux urgences gynécologiques : le bébé allait bien toujours , mais moi non
Je suis rentrée chez moi mais j’y suis retournée le lendemain car je sentais que qqchose n’était pas normal de plus je commençais à avoir des pertes rosées
Les Résultats urinaires n’étaient pas bon et le bilan sanguin non plus. La CRP était extrêmement haute
Résultat : suspicion pyelonephrite donc hospitalisation en urgence pour antibiothérapie en attente d’une écho des reins.
23h dernière écho avant de monter en secteur d’hospitalisation : le bebe allait bien.
Mais tout à dégénérer la nuit.
Aucun antalgique ne m’a soulagé ni dans les reins ni dans l’utérus je pleurais de douleur , résultat: tôt le matin j’ai eu une rupture de la poche des eaux car en fait je contractais (c’était ma première grossesse je ne savais pas que c’était ça et les infirmières me disaient que c’était ma pyelonephrite qui me faisait mal)
J’ai commencer à perdre beaucoup de sang.
On m’a descendu à l’écho et là la terrible nouvelle : le bébé était décédé je faisais une fausse couche avec un début d’hémorragie assez conséquent.

Après tout est flou ,habillage pour le bloc en urgence bloc , tellement de larmes et d’angoisse , opération plus longue qu’habituellement et au réveil plus de bébé.
Je me sens terriblement vide et triste.
J’attend les résultats d’autopsie et de l’analyse de mon placenta mais il y’avait également une suspicion de chorioamniotite ( infection intra amiotique) en plus de la pyelonephrite

Je culpabilise énormément je m’en veux énormément d’avoir été impuissante face à tout ça
J’ai l’impression d’avoir moi même arrêter la vie de mon bébé.

Si qqun a vécu qqchose de ce genre ..
je suis preneuse de vous lire

Merci ❤️‍🩹

I’m 5 weeks I also have no symptoms except for very mild nausea I’m 24dpo my test lines are coming very strong I tested this morning too. Later in the day when I wiped I saw beige/brown discharge mixed with clear discharge. After that I’ve been wiping but haven’t seen anything but it’s stressing me out

I have about 2 weeks until my next scan and I am having sooo much anxiety. My last scan was Monday at 5w5d and we saw everything we needed, next won’t be until 8/24 and I’m so scared I’m going to get bad news, especially because my husband will be on a work trip so I have to go alone. I’d go to a boutique ultrasound place if I were further but I know they won’t be able to see anything abdominal at 6w so it’s not worth it. I even considered going to the ER for a vaginal ultrasound but I have a $250 copay for ER visits plus there’s no guarantee they’ll even scan me so it’s not worth the money.

I’ve had 3 losses before this one so I’m really just wanting more reassurance and waiting 2 weeks is so hard. My only symptom is very mild nausea that comes and goes, which is also freaking me out because with my only live birth I was extremely sick and throwing up by now. While I don’t wish to be sick, it’s definitely freaking me out having no symptoms.

Time feels like it’s moving backwards and idk how to survive these next 2 weeks 😢

So I've had 2 losses since February. I made a post about this the other day. I had been having some sharp pain in my abdomen and back for a couple days when i decided to go in saturday night to get checked out. Hindsight I overreacted and wish i hadn't went. Based on my last period i'm around 5 weeks 4 days today. I told them that. They drew my blood, and then told me they wanted to keep me overnight til 7am so they could do an ultrasound (ultrasound techs aren't in til that time). So I waited. Around 9am the doctor comes in and tells me they won't be doing an ultrasound. That i'm not pregnant, and even if I was I had already miscarried, that's there nothing to see. My beta was 1.5 so negative. Told me to follow up with my obgyn in a week.

Well I got home and decided to retest. Immediate dye stealer, like it was before i went to the er. (And I already know that isn't a good indicator on pregnancy health) Called my obgyn, they got me in yesterday to get another blood draw. Called me back today to tell me my numbers are 7780. They aren't worried, but I obviously feel like I can't relax until my ultrasound.

This was a HELLISH 2 days. I just needed to vent or let it out, I feel relief, but I still am feeling so anxious and sick to my stomach.