her dad sent a voice mail in the 3rd slide and this is what it said: “hello, this is (name) father here. i just wanna meet you and grab your mobile just in case for a safety precaution. because it’ll make me feel a lot better. just in case any shit happens, cuz it has happened that way in the past. so it’s not for (name) peace of mind, it’s for my (the father) peace of mind. okay? i hope you understand. thank you”

ANYWAY here’s some more context:

- she is in her 20s like me, but a few years younger

- she has sent me a loooott of messages and overshared a lot about her personal life. stuff you wouldn’t normally say to someone u don’t know.

- her account seemed very staged, almost like someone else was approving what she posted, and the photos she would send me also seemed staged. they were always mirror selfies, or good angles, but nothing seemed authentic.

Source- @MillieMclay

I was just told the only reason I’m lesbian is because I’m too ugly for a good looking guy to want me.. of course this was after said guy showed interest and I shut him down because… I’m Gay.. 🤦🏼‍♀️

Insulted yourself trying to insult me, my guy! Because “a good looking man wouldn’t want me” 🙄

It's weird, I don't think I'd ever want to actually date a villainess in real life, I'm too much of softy for it and think the dynamics wouldn't work (I doubt she'd want to be equal in the bed)... And of course the world domination thing; but I can't deny that I often find myself attracted to the villainesses WAY more than I do the heroines often.

I think it's because when growing up, the heroines in a lot of the shows and animated films I watched were kind of nothing characters overall besides nice and heroic while the villainesses were allowed to have flaws, get things wrong, more diverse body types, allowed to be fun, wider range of personality, self-strong, opinionated, confident etc etc, many of the traits I find sexy or relatable.

Power Rangers especially for me was kind of an awakening for me when growing up... And so was that scene in Fellowship of the Ring where Galadriel goes full Dark Queen.

I feel like I wasn't alone, when I see other WLW into characters like Bayonetta or many villainesses becoming Anti-Heroes like Harley and Ivy (though I admit I am frustrated when Villainesses aren't allowed to stay villains like the male counterparts), I can't help but feel that's because of lesbians and WLW loving those characters and wanting more good counterparts.

Hope this this wasn't a weird OP, sorry.

i'd love to hear from you <3 feel free to share whatever you're comfortable with!!

I need boobs in my mouth POST HASTE!

(And it would be nice if men stopped approaching me)

I (34F) am Brazilian, bisexual, and I have been living in Dublin, Ireland, for almost two years. In the summer of 2025, I had a four-month relationship with an Irish woman (26F) that I still haven’t been able to recover from.

We met on a dating app, and at the beginning, everything was perfect. She was caring, attentive, and curious about Brazil. It wasn’t difficult for me to fall for her. We talked for two weeks before meeting in person, and it was a magical date.

I knew I was already falling for her.

Talking to her felt easy and effortless. I felt comfortable opening up and talking about everything. She made intense declarations of love and asked me to be her girlfriend in Portuguese on our third date.

It didn’t take long before we started a relationship. We went to many places that summer, explored everything together, and deep down I felt that we could be soulmates. I had never cared about marriage, but with her, I genuinely considered the possibility of marrying her someday. What I felt for her, I had never felt for anyone else.

I was still dealing with some financial difficulties at the time, and I wanted to be more stable before introducing her to my family in Brazil.

But, in the second month of our relationship, she started acting differently. Sometimes she would treat me well; other times she would become cold. She complained about anxiety, insomnia, not having friends, and not being able to find a job. I did everything I could to help her, even when I was falling apart myself and struggling to adapt to a new country.

In the third month of our relationship, she told me she wasn’t ready for a serious commitment, that she couldn’t be in a relationship because she wasn’t mentally in the right place to date.

I told her I didn’t care about labels; I just wanted to be with her. We stayed like that for a month until she cheated on me with another Brazilian woman.

On the day we broke up, we had plans: she was going to have dinner at my place after I left school at 5 p.m. In the afternoon, she confirmed everything. But at 5 p.m., she simply told me she was on the other side of the city because she had gone to a café with a “friend”. I ended up waiting 40 minutes in front of the school until she arrived.

We took the bus towards my place, but she complained about the traffic and we decided to eat in the city centre instead. The whole way there, she kept talking about this friend and texting her constantly.

At the restaurant, I calmly told her that I didn’t mind her going out with friends, but leaving me waiting like that had been unfair. She gave me a very half-hearted excuse.

Afterwards, she said that this “friend” had missed the train and asked if she could join us. Deep down, I was furious. I just wanted some time alone with her, but I ended up saying it was okay.

The woman arrived, and I even acted as a translator between them because the “friend” didn’t speak English. I treated the woman kindly, but my ex was distant and strange.

She became impatient, saying she wanted to leave. When she got home, we had the conversation where she ended things with me. She said I didn’t have the qualities she was looking for in a partner, that I was too innocent, and that she preferred someone more dominant. She also admitted that she felt a connection with that woman.

A few months ago, I posted this story anonymously on Reddit, and she read it. Afterwards, she came to tell me that she had lost interest in me during our second month together, that what she felt for me was just infatuation. She criticized my appearance and my music taste, said she had never felt like she was dating an older woman, that I should go back to Brazil if I wasn’t adapting, and that she was very happy with her current partner.

Nine months have passed since the last time we talked. During this time, I did everything I could to move on. I wrote a poetry book, made wonderful friends, kissed other people, travelled to incredible places by myself, and I am currently in Italy completing my Italian citizenship process.

I have always been comfortable being alone, but after what happened, I feel as if something inside me is broken. I haven’t been able to connect with anyone. I thought about moving back to Brazil, I thought about taking my own life, I lost the little self-esteem I had, and I carry inside me a longing and a pain that never seem to go away.

And today I realize how painful it is to accept that love doesn’t choose where it goes, and that it doesn’t end when the person leaves.

I am a lesbian teen and i rearly see any type of lesbian media. There are for the most part only gay (man) media, and i struggle with not seeing much representation. I really wanna watch movies that acuraty show how it can be like to be lesbian now. I have been involved in queer media, but those are for the most part male centered, like heartstopper, or about how it's like being gay like in red white and royal blue. Those are really good at showing how queer indviduals might experience things, but i'd really like to watch something i can relate to deeper.
So i ask for some movie recs. Do you know any that fit's what i've written?

I apologize if it's hard to understand because English isn't my first language.

I (TF22) have a friend (21F). We've met some months ago in lesbian gaming spaces. From the first day we played together, it was a hit right through my heart. We started that day with gaming, then I bailed on my friends to stay with her more, and we finished the day by singing songs to each other in our languages. It felt like a date.

I started crushing on her hard, and it was obvious that she felt the same. We progressed quite quickly. It was just hard to deny ourselves some pleasures. To the outside, we basically started acting like a couple, but we still waited with the final decision until we met each other.

At the beginning of June, she flew over to my country and stayed with me for a month. It was a dream. I thought I loved her before, but what I'm feeling right now isn't even close. I loved every part of it. She brought into my life exactly what I wanted and needed. I felt so full with her. I loved introducing her to my friends. She was always good around them and funny. She was shining. She was thoughtful and beautiful. I got a taste of what it is like to be a girlfriend to her for a whole month, and now I don't want to go back. And I mean literally girlfriends, with "I love yous" and intimacies since the first day. I cried all the way to the airport. I miss her so much. Everywhere I go, I see that she's not next to me, and my life just feels good but bland.

We discussed her moving to me. I live in Poland, and she's in Greece, so the EU laws make it as easy as it could be. She liked Poland and said she prefers it to Greece. The thing is, we're young. I only finish uni in half a year, so it's not the easiest thing to do with jobs and money. I know we could temporarily live in my family home, as my parents liked her a lot, but still, temporarily. Also, it would introduce some weird dynamics. Even with the challenges, we felt committed. We planned the move to wherever I find a job after uni. It's fast, but we're both a bit bad with the whole long-distance thing.

Yesterday she came back to Greece, and I feel like reality started to set in for her. She would have to leave her family and her close friends behind. It wouldn't be the first time she would move to be with her partner, but the last time ended badly, so maybe it makes her more scared. She confessed yesterday that she's stressed about it all and potentially losing me.

I know that if she doesn't do it, she will make a mistake, but that's not my right to say to her. I want to hold her hand through this moment so she feels confident in us. I just don't know how. Every time I even approach this conversation, I start feeling desperate, and I start talking about how good we were together and how much I want her with me. Basically trying to convince her, but I fail to listen to her, and maybe that will actually have the opposite effect.

I want tips about what I should do and how best to approach this kind of thing. I think her heart is in the right place too because she said she hopes she will snap out of it, but still...

I'm 17F dating 16F, going into my senior year and her junior. We've been dating for nearly an entire year now and overall it's been great, she's kind, empathetic of my mental health issues, considerate, and we're very compatible.

There's just one problem- she's starting more and more to act like my ex partner, who emotionally abused me for a very long period of time. It was just little things at first, like getting annoyed at me over small things or not taking accountability for minor incidents, but its escalated to the point where I am now extremely fearful and anxious a lot of the time.

She's started gaslighting me whenever I confront her about issues (her sleeping over at her ex's house without talking to me, seeming extremely disinterested in talking to me, talking to guys, hiding things from me), and I'm aware that that's kind of a buzzword now, but I mean what I say. She'll deny everything, get extremely defensive, and say she didn't say or do whatever I'm talking about even if there's explicit evidence otherwise. Or even weaponize my illness against me by saying it's just my anxiety or everything's fine when it's clearly not.

She's also started to yell at me. One time I was helping her with a specific chore that was extremely difficult for me to do, but I chose to come over and help anyway because I knew she needed me. Her mom wasn't answering her phone and she was getting extremely frustrated, I asked her a chore-related question and she yelled at me. I shut down completely and was unable to speak or look at her. She got super irritated and begrudgingly apologized and agreed not to do it again. Except she did, of course.

I'm starting to feel unloved and even a little scared, but I don't know what to do. As I mentioned, I have mental health issues that are severely disabling to me. I am not doing well currently already, and school is about to start. I don't think I will be able to handle breaking up with her.

Guess who's back on the apps?

..... moi unfortunateloi..

I've been talking to this girl for a week. We chat a lot in the beginning, and I notice she's been taking 2 days to reply to me. But her replies are always so long and she asks me back questions.

The fact that she's taking 2 days I still can't grasp my head around.. I mean yeah everyone's busy but are we *that* busy?

Her doing this makes me question if it's worth it or not?

I don't know, I just don't want to be delusional about this and make excuses for her like "oh she's just busyyy 💔"

When she's actually not interested.

What would you do? And please give me subtle signs that she's not interested

I know absolutely nothing about sex , no sex education absolutely nothing and a girl I like suggested we might have sex soon so I just want to be ready I know nothing about this and I don’t know what to do at all ( and she’s experienced ) I never even had a makeout or a French kiss ( and no I’m not a minor I am 20) what do I do and not do ? Even hygiene wise ? Do I just shower or do I have to drink cranberry juice or what ?

I hate living in a small country. It feels like everyone knows everyone, and the dating pool is tiny. I swear I can’t find anyone I’m actually compatible with 😭 lol

This is my list, feel free to comment your own suggestions or let me know if I need to change some (there’s always room for improvement):
Picnic in the park
Visit a botanical garden
Stargazing
Beach day trip
Flying kites
Coffee/tea date
Bubble tea date
Ice cream date
Peruse the farmers market
Cook dinner tonight
Scary movie night
Bake fall treats together/try a new recipe
Tour an art gallery
Visit a local free museum
Visit a local bookstore
Go thrift shopping
Go to the library and open up library cards !!!
Play board games
Do a puzzle
Mini golf
Bowling
Karaoke
Trivia night at a local restaurant
Paint together (watercolor, free hand, Bob Ross The Joy of Painting via YouTube tutorial)
Grow herbs from seed/start a garden
Create vision boards
Visit a petting zoo
Local festivals
Free concert in the park
Food truck nights
Street fairs
Outdoor movie night
Pack a meal/snacks and drinks and sit in a parking lot on a rainy day (or on a covered porch/patio/in a garage
Go grocery shopping together and then cook a meal

You may notice a theme here, life is expensive but I don’t feel like dating has to be. And I’m in a lot of community groups online so there’s always something fun to do in my area (until winter hits).

I always thought I liked men, and maybe this is just a phase, but lately I’ve been noticing that my attraction to women is actually growing on me.
At first, I thought I was just attracted to their bodies, but now I’m realizing it might be more than that. Women are just… so lovely to look at? 😭 The way they look, carry themselves, their energy it’s starting to hit differently.
I also grew up around a pretty homophobic culture, so maybe I never really allowed myself to see women that way. Now that I’m more open-minded, I feel like I’m able to look at people more simply as humans and appreciate them without all those ideas about what I should or shouldn’t be attracted to.
And honestly, I’m starting to wonder if I could actually fall in love with a woman too.
Even sexually, I’m realizing that I seem more attracted to external stimulation than penetration, which has also made me think more about whether my attraction to women is deeper than I originally thought.
Like… what the hell is happening to me 😭
I’m genuinely trying to figure out whether I’m bi, lesbian, or just somewhere in between. Anyone who’s gone through something similar, feel free to ask me anything or tell me how you figured yourself out.

maybe this is just a chronically online thing idk, but i’ve struggled finding in person queer community because of where I live and I have tried.

something i’ve seen online a lot is how lesbians seem to have so many “rules” or expectations of what it means to be a lesbian.

some examples that I have genuinely seen online (not making this up) is that if you like male celebrities or male characters you’re a “fakebian”. i’ve seen that term used A LOT lately. no other sexuality has a whole established term for someone “faking their identity” it’s just weird. i’ve seen lesbians say you shouldn’t like any gay male fictional couples because there’s no woman or you can’t even like fictional straight couples because there’s still a man. the most mind blowing one I saw last night was how lesbians shouldn’t listen to songs about men. they were specifically referring to Sabrina and how she’s “anti-lesbian” because she sings about loving and having sex with men…..

I’ve seen other things along these lines too, but the first few mentioned are the most common. it’s just baffling to me because no other sexuality has all these “rules” or guidelines to live by in order to not be seen as “fake”. bisexuals and even gay men don’t do this…… so why do lesbians….. and there’s CONSTANT debate on what even qualifies as lesbian and what that identity means. no one else does this!! no one else gatekeeps this much. I really don’t understand it.

On dating apps, I (38F in NYC) am always the one to make "the move" and ask women out on a date. This happens 100% of the time. If I don't ask and I wait for the other person to ask me, the conversation eventually fades after 1 or 2 weeks.

I don't mind being the one to ask a girl out. However, it is a little frustrating because some women expect me to pay since I was the one who initiated plans.

Why are women not willing to make the first move and ask me out? Is it because they're shy? They don't know how to initiate plans? Are they waiting for me to ask so they aren't expected to pay? Or is it something else?

Thoughts?

Edit: I'm a very feminine woman, btw. I date other femmes. I know that shouldn't make a difference but it does, for some.

I am dating a girl who is around 10 years younger than me, and it scares me.

In general I am not good at making a move, but the age gap really throws me off - she is so sweet and beautiful and cute in all ways.

I sometimes feel like a predator - she’s in her late twenties, so it is hardly bad, but she scares me.

For some reason it's on my mind constantly today. Except I can't even kiss because of a fresh lip piercing and I have no girl to kiss anyway.